My “No Resolutions” Resolution

THE START OF THE NEW YEAR!!

THE START OF THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS! Does it have to be that way?

Never exercised before?  Now you resolve to go not 3 times a week!!! BUT everyday!!  Soon we will see the commercials and infomercials for treadmills, food delivery systems and step tracking apps!

Never let a green vegetable cross your lips?  Now you will each 5 servings EVERY day!!  Blend this green powder into your smooothie NOW!

Tough people in your life?  Now you can post these inspirational thoughts and read them EVERY day!  Now you will have a better mindset to handle these people!

But do you have to make these resolutions?  Really?

Do they really serve us well?

And how long do the typical resolutions last?  I read an article last year that said most resolutions are typically forgotten by the end of January….but still the need to fix and adjust our life on January 1st persists!!

I fall squarely in the camp of those who chose not to make resolutions.  I used to make these resolutions but then I became a mom of a beautiful daughter with special needs and that all changed.

I think it is because I have learned that changes occur so often during a year and that many simply cannot be planned.  Really we cannot control so many things and in the world of special needs, that holds true even more.

I think it is because even though I promise myself to be more patient in stressful times, the truth is I may drop that ball right away.

I think it is because I am so invested in her life and her special needs, that any changes and adjustments are done right when they are needed.  Because each day is different and that can even be each minute!

I think it is because this job of being mom to my globally dyspraxia, sensory processing disorder ( SPD ) child is so very challenging. To deny my emotions and try to 24/7 be positive, I would be denying the reality of my days.  Days that can run the gamete of emotions from fear to happy to sad to joy.

I think it is because, as you know, being a parent/caregiver to a child with special needs requires balancing the lives of their siblings, spouses/significant others, jobs, friends and quite simply LIFE, and that quite simply put….has no blueprint. 

We are doing the very best we can.

Daily.

Given the worlds we live in.

So I resolve to not resolve, but to simply do my best.

Think, adjust, readjust and do it all with the deep love I know we all feel for these beautiful children we have.

I wish everyone a Happy New Year to start 2023

Michele Gianetti author of:  Elizabeth Believes in Herself

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